Short Attachment Style Quiz

Identifying your attachment style is a way to summarize the instincts you have when it comes to relationships with others. These often stem from how we were interacted with in childhood. The effects are usually most prominent in romantic relationships, but can be present in other types of relationships, such as friendships. By understanding your style and how you're poised to feel in relationships, you can better communicate, collaborate, and be honest with your partner or friends.

Additionally, being informed about your attachment style may point to overreactions or reactions out of proportion with your current situation. This can be a sign of stress that has not yet been able to resolve, which is where trauma therapy comes in. Trauma therapy seeks to find and help you release the events, fears, or instincts that are sticking around.

Take this quiz to learn about yourself. and your attachment style. If you're wanting to learn more or seeking guidance on changing how you're feeling in relationships, reach out! Your attachment style is not the end of the story and does not mean you will always feel like this. You may need guidance from a mental health professional, but the right provider will be able to help you release what's stuck and build your ability to show up how you want to in your relationships.

Instructions:

For each statement, select the option that best matches how you usually feel in close relationships.

Answer options:

·         A) Strongly disagree (1 point)

·         B) Disagree (2 points)

·         C) Neutral (3 points)

·         D) Agree (4 points)

·         E) Strongly agree (5 points)

Questions:

Q#	Statement	Related to Attachment Style
1	I find it easy to get close to others and comfortable depending on them.	Secure
2	I worry that people I care about will leave me or don’t really love me.	Anxious
3	I’m comfortable being independent and don’t feel the need to rely on others too much.	Avoidant
4	I often feel anxious about whether my partner really loves me or will stay with me.	Anxious
5	I sometimes avoid getting too close to others because I’m afraid of getting hurt.	Avoidant
6	When I feel uncomfortable in a relationship, I tend to pull away rather than communicate.	Avoidant
7	I find it easy to trust people and don’t worry about them leaving me.	Secure
8	I want to be close to others but sometimes feel like they don’t want to get as close to me.	Anxious

How scoring works:

·         Assign points (1 to 5) for each answer from Strongly disagree (1) to Strongly agree (5).

·         Calculate totals for each attachment style:

Attachment Style	Questions	Scoring method
Secure	1, 7	Add points directly
Anxious	2, 4, 8	Add points directly
Avoidant	3, 5, 6	Add points directly

Example:

·         If someone answers "Strongly agree" (5 points) on Q2, Q4, and Q8, their Anxious score is 15.

·         If they answer "Strongly agree" on Q3, Q5, Q6, their Avoidant score is 15.

·         If they answer "Strongly agree" on Q1 and Q7, their Secure score is 10.

Interpretation:

·         The highest score indicates the dominant attachment style.

·         Secure: High on 1 and 7 means you’re comfortable with intimacy and trust.

·         Anxious: High on 2, 4, 8 suggests worry about abandonment and need for reassurance.

·         Avoidant: High on 3, 5, 6 suggests discomfort with closeness and tendency to distance yourself.